View Full Version : Change of Christmas plans for Markat !!

24th December 2008, 17:35
Hi all and happy christmas,
Was expecting to be here tomorrow to chat with anyone that's about - but heard from my dad today - wants to apolgise for all the "unpleasant" things he has said in the past that led to us falling out and losing contact.
So in a sudden change of plan am off to see my parents, my sister and BIL and their kids and my brother and fiancee (who I've not met before) tonight.

Scared and excited at the same time.

Have a great christmas everyone here especially my special friends here who mean so much to me.

Mark, xx

PS There is a freezer full of food here if anyone needs supplies and as for the wine lake - good job it doesn't have a short shelf life !!

24th December 2008, 17:37
Good luck with your reunion.
Hope you have a great time :D

24th December 2008, 17:40
Wow thats fantastic Markat. I sincerely hope it all goes well.
I remember when I went back to my parents after 8 years. It was very surreal and sometimes even now it feels strange. my younger sister was only 10 when I left so she and I didnt really get on at first, she blamed me for it all you see.

I dont live near them either so its hard but i do try.

I really hope you can all work it out, it sounds like its the start of things to come hun
all the best

24th December 2008, 17:45
Awww Markat I dont know you but this brought a tear to my eye. So pleased you will be spending Christmas with your family - the true meaning of Christmas for me. :hug:

24th December 2008, 17:45
That's what Christmas is all about, have a great one!

24th December 2008, 17:48
thats exactly what I was going to say SW

best Christmas present you could ask for Markat :hug:

24th December 2008, 17:53
Well I hope it works out well - they don't know I had the house repossesed yet so that will be interesting news to break - and have to get the train there need to explain loss of car too !!
Thanks for your kind words, just packing some stuff and getting 19.01 train.

24th December 2008, 18:02
Have a nice time and hope it all works out for you.

24th December 2008, 18:09
Aww markat,

Really pleased for you hope you have a great xmas.

big momma
24th December 2008, 18:15
take care xxx

24th December 2008, 18:22
Hope it all goes well for you. Have a lovely Christmas x :xmas-smiley-029:

24th December 2008, 18:39
Hi Mark

I am not one to normally post like this but just wanted to say how absolutely fantastic it is that your Dad got in tough. Life is to short to bear any grudges, and although I know you are scared and apprehensive just think that your Dad will feel that way too. I have a Sister who lives in Cornwall who I haven't seen for 25 years:( I have offered the 'olive branch' once before at Christmas but she didn't want to take it. I feel sad just thinking about it now.

So have a lovely Christmas and enjoy getting to know your Dad again:)


24th December 2008, 18:50
Hope all works out Mark and have a fab Christmas.

24th December 2008, 19:09
Aww Markat I am made up for you, I hope you have a great time.

As for explaining whats gone on this year, you shouldnt be ashamed of any of it. You have come through it, faced up to your problems and started to get your life back together and sorted.

Good Luck! :hug:

24th December 2008, 19:11
that's lovely, i wish you all the best

24th December 2008, 19:17
Sorry too late to catch you, but best wishes for a lovely Christmas, and enjoy meeting up with your folks again. :)

24th December 2008, 19:49
Markat, that is lovely. I am really pleased for you. I hope you have a lovely time.

24th December 2008, 19:52
aww how lovely!! thats really made me smile... im glad u and ur family are workin things out
have a lovely christmas xx

24th December 2008, 19:54
Christmas is a time for families, hope you have a great time hun x

24th December 2008, 20:07
You'll be on your way now, but I just wanted to say I am so pleased for you and hope you have a very Happy Christmas with your family :)

Life is too short to bear grudges and so often it is left too late to make amends.

24th December 2008, 20:17
aww that's lovely news Mark, I know we have exchanged pms b4 about our difficult dads, life is too short so really pleased that you are going to be with your family

hope you have a happy christmas love welshy x

janice mac
24th December 2008, 20:52
have a great time markat!

Dolly Daydream
24th December 2008, 20:56
That's fab, hope all goes well for you xxx

24th December 2008, 21:28
I am really pleased for you Markat :hug: and Merry Christmas!

24th December 2008, 21:31
All the very best Markat - Have a fab Christmas


red devil
24th December 2008, 21:36
Have a great time Markat hope you have a :christmas:

24th December 2008, 21:43
Have a great time with your family Markat. Hope it all goes well. This is the perfect time of year for reconciliation x

24th December 2008, 21:53
man.. that is such good news... as you may knoe i'm motified that i've lost contact with friends so this is a big deal

24th December 2008, 22:05
Great news. Hope you all have a good time

24th December 2008, 22:19
Mark so pleased to hear you are spending christmas with family, I hope you have a wonderful time.

My two little boys are all tucked up in bed with no real idea of what is happening tommorow, we have been to my sisters for a buffet this evening and now just watching 300 before having an early night as tommorow will be a very very busy day for us.

Merry Christmas everyone xx

Jemima Puddle-Duck
24th December 2008, 22:21
Have an absolute fantabulous time hun. xx

24th December 2008, 22:26
Have a lovely day xx

25th December 2008, 00:34
Aww Mark thats great to hear, great timing with xmas too. Have fun b good lol.

25th December 2008, 10:07
Lovely News....Hope you have fun meeting up with your faimly again...you deserve lots of happy times now :)

Made in Devon
25th December 2008, 13:40
I too have a totally disfunctional family, today is not the day to go into details, but there is nothing I would like more than a phone call like yours Markat...
Really pleased for you and hope you have a lovely Christmas xxxx

26th December 2008, 14:02
Back home - all went well - thanks for all the kind messages.
Need not have been nervous, all was forgotten and a new start made.

Hope you all had a good Christmas 2008, xx

26th December 2008, 15:18
Only just seen this thread,such great news,I really hope this is the start of better things to come for you.
I am so glad things went well.

26th December 2008, 15:39
Back home - all went well - thanks for all the kind messages.
Need not have been nervous, all was forgotten and a new start made.

Hope you all had a good Christmas 2008, xx

Excellent news Mark - life is too short

Welshy x

26th December 2008, 17:52
Awww, brilliant, glad to hear all went well. Bodes well for the New Year and a New Start :)

Made in Devon
26th December 2008, 17:54
Really pleased for you xxxx

26th December 2008, 19:20
glad all went ok for you and heres to a much closer family for you in 2009 and hope you get to see more of each other now the ice is broken

im really pleased for you!

26th December 2008, 20:21
Great News....May you all have a happier, closer 2009 and more x

26th December 2008, 20:49
Just read this thread and so pleased for you and glad it all went wellxx

26th December 2008, 20:54
Great news Markat. A new year a new start:)

26th December 2008, 22:25
aww im glad it went well hunni
merry xmas xx

26th December 2008, 23:06
great news, really glad for you

27th December 2008, 05:59
Glad all went well Mark! Happy new year!

27th December 2008, 12:23
Glad it went well for you hunny. Happy 2009. :)

28th December 2008, 12:35
So good to hear your news as they say so many fall out with families over xmas its nice to hear 1 came together.

Good for you.

Happy new yr.

28th December 2008, 13:05
Great news Markat, so pleased you made up with your dad, hope you have a brill 2009. x

28th December 2008, 17:20
Aw Mark, I am catching up a bit on PTS, had a little break from it! I am chuffed to bits for you, you really seem to be moving forward and I am really pleased! Well done for being so brave, it would have been easy to have made excuses and not gone.

11th August 2009, 21:01
Sorry to bring up an old thread !
Anyway he (dad) called me yesterday - been told not invited this year, had a moan to some close friends yesterday and much happier today - no point complaining about things you cant change.

11th August 2009, 21:10
grrr - did he give any reason why?

11th August 2009, 21:11
oh markat, what a shame. Haven't re-read the whole thread and my memory is pants, is he likely to change his mind again?

You are always welcome to Chez Polo'n'Dom for christmas my dear, dom is having beans on toast but we could have turkey :)


11th August 2009, 21:13
told me he does not want the hassle and is going away with my mum for xmas.

11th August 2009, 21:17
weird to say but am making plans for a great christmas now - thanks Polo, really tried last year but 2009 and he's decided it's a no.

11th August 2009, 21:53
Well at the very least he's had the courtesy to let you know in time to make some knock out plans of your own and if he did change his mind nearer the time you can tell him you have plans but could possibly fit him in somewhere over the holiday (if you wanted to that is)

You didnt say if you were planning to share Doms beans :D

12th August 2009, 08:35
Sorry to hear that but as Zaul said you have had plenty of notice and it is better than finding out the week before xmas.

Gosh it would be fun to see you and polo sharing a nice xmas dinner watching Dom eat his beans